Beneath The Surface

#2016, #BackTheBlue, #community, #cops, #guardians, #HumanizingTheBadge, #lawenforcement, #Lessons, #police, #policefamily, #ptsd, #reality, #sacrifice, #stats, #stress, #suicide, #thinblueline, #truth, #weseeyou -

Beneath The Surface

I woke up this morning and checked my phone like I always do, looking to see if anything important had happened while I slept.  I saw that there was a series of terrorist attacks in Belgium, and that was shocking, of course.  I saw that I received a lot of “junk” emails during the night, which is not unusual at all, and quite annoying as well.  But then I checked the messages on the social media pages I monitor related to law enforcement support, and was confronted with the most disturbing of messages, and one that I see all too often any more – that another police officer had chosen to end his life by suicide.  The message reads, in part:

Please keep my hometown and [redacted] police department in your prayers.  We just lost a 15 year Sergeant with a wife and three kids at home to suicide. [The department] hasn’t made a public post as to how they died so it’s why I’m messaging you. I’m just kinda shocked because my hometown police never really experiences things like this. I just wish I could’ve helped in some way. Too close to home.

Yes, it’s way too close to home when an officer suicide happens, especially among those that are part of his or her law enforcement family.  By the “official” numbers, there are nearly as many deaths by suicide among active officers each year as there are line-of-duty deaths.  It’s hard to know whether those numbers are accurate, though, because the news media are often limited as to what they can report, and the departments are reluctant to talk about a suicide happening among their ranks because it may hurt the reputation of the department.  I am aware of police agencies that will not allow an officer who has died by suicide to be buried in his or her uniform because of the stigma of associating that manner of death with the police agency.

Police Suicide SamllWe see the death by suicide, but we don’t always see the underlying factors that lead to it.  I’ve come to call incidents of officer suicide “the other line of duty death.”  It’s the one that is not discussed – but all too often the effects of the job are what may lead an officer to believe that suicide is the only logical way to escape the pain. 

Police officers are impacted by:

  • Critical incident stress – reactions to traumatic incidents they are involved in that have a tendency to overwhelm their normal coping mechanisms.  Unchecked, the lack of ability to cope well manifests itself in the symptoms of post-traumatic stress.
  • Chronic stress – the cumulative effects of both critical incident stress as well as just the so-called “normal” stressors associated with police work.  Officers tend to develop unhealthy coping mechanisms over the years that often lead to:
  • Stress-related illnesses – heart disease, high blood pressure, intestinal disorders, substance abuse, insomnia, and many other illnesses that are directly attributable to unresolved issues related to stress and the unhealthy ways in which the individual has tried to cope.
  • Anxiety and depression – There is a huge stigma associated with police officers seeking mental health assistance.  Fearing they will be declared unfit for duty, their symptoms grow worse until they believe there is no hope remaining.  According to the International Critical Incident Stress Foundation, approximately 90% of individuals who die by suicide have untreated mental illness, and individuals with serious mental illness die by suicide at rates 6 to 12 times higher than the general population.

If you are an officer who needs help to cope with issues in your life and career, or if you are a family member or friend of an officer who wants to know what you can do to help, I want you to know that free, confidential stress coaching is available to you if you will send a private message to any of the following:

I can only echo the words of an article I recently read:  “If you are an officer who is hurting and contemplating suicide, reach out now.  There are many people who really do care about you, who really do want to help you, who don’t want to attend your funeral.” (

PLEASE NOTE:  If you are in crisis now, and need someone to talk to immediately, please call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 800-273-TALK (8255).  They provide confidential assistance and are available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, year-round.


  • Chrissi

    My condolences. I’m sorry that this tragedy happened.I pray never too read about this again. My heart breaks for you all in blue.

  • Emiliana Rodriguez

    Hi I’m a retired police officer from Washington, D.C. I was retired suffering with PTSD. I am in therapy and medication. However, there is no one that really understands me. I have not found a police support system for retired officers. We give it our all for so long and then you’re retired with a dissability pension, then forgotten. I don’t understand. I obsoletely loved being a cop and I miss it. I didn’t want to retire but I guess they thought I was a liability. This happened a long time ago (14 yrs.), but to me it happened yesterday. I feel stuck. I wish there was help for people like me. Ok I feel like I’m rambling. Thanks for the help you’re offering the office that are still on the job.

  • Cary Stewart

    GOD bless our our “angels” in blue, who have lost their lives in the line of duty, and to those who suffered mentally. I can relate to loosing it & tried to commit suicide twice. I’ve been there so understand what can happen to those who think that there is no way out except to end it all. I am healing daily & asked GOD to forgive me & HE did!!! Miracles still happen even in this twenty first century!!!

  • Brandy

    My husband as I type this is at a wake for a friend & coworker. He is a detective for Sayreville Police Dept and died by suicide. We are all heartbroken and stupefied. The streets have been shut down due to the overwhelming love and support from the community. All anyone can say is people don’t “get it” they don’t understand what these men and woman go through EVERYDAY. God bless our people in blue!

Leave a comment

Please note, comments must be approved before they are published